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Trust me on this one: I've been working as a breakup recovery coach for a long time, and even wrote a book all about the recovery process - Exaholics: Breaking Your Addiction to An Ex Love, if you're interested in learning more. Instead, it keeps you from moving forward. Ruminating does not bring any value to your healing process. So when you’re imagining your Ex and their new sex partner making out on the couch, you react to it emotionally (and physically) like you were seeing it happen right in front of you: Your heart starts racing, you feel nauseous, and you are filled with pain and rage.īeing victimized by these intrusive images is incredibly traumatizing. You feel trapped… in your own head.īelieve it or not, the part of your brain that sees things in your mind’s eye cannot differentiate between something that you’re thinking about and something that is actually happening. You want to stop thinking about it but you can’t. You lay sleepless, writhing in agony at the injustice. The joy and passion you envision for them is made all the more cruel by the stark contrast to your own silent bed. It’s worse at night, when there are no distractions. You see your Ex - the happy, sweet, fun one you first fell in love with - sharing the best parts of themselves (and hiding the rest). Except your role is being played by someone who might be sexier, more fun or more interesting. In your mind’s eye you play out scenes from your life together. They probably skipped the motorcycle ride and decided to spend the day in bed. Maybe they are having sex right this very second. Are they holding hands right now? I bet they’re kissing. “Are they on the motorcycle right now? He’s probably taking her to that restaurant I always wanted to go to that he said was too expensive. It feels like your blood has been replaced with Arctic seawater: Frozen and stinging at the same time. “Coping” has been overwhelmed by a storm of emotion. Now, waves of rage, pain, self-doubt, and resentment are crashing over you. Then you found out that your Ex is sleeping with someone new. You’ve gone through the confusion of whether to stay or go, and all the angst and hard decisions that come with leaving.
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HOW TO STOP OBSESSING ABOUT YOUR EX'S NEW RELATIONSHIP: Until now you’ve been handling your divorce or break-up process well.